mid-February Blues Pt 3

   You wanna hear me

   say all naughty fantasies

   pertaining to you?

   I want to pleasure 

   your ass, pussy, and mouth

   in one fuck session 

We got home really early Monday morning. We were both worn out and since we had the day off, we slept in. We had nowhere to be, so what better way to enjoy the day off than intimacy in the middle of the day? Nope! She was worn out, starting to feel sick and her menstrual cycle made an unscheduled appearance. I'm the loving, doting hubby who wants to make it all go away so I went into caretaker mode. 

Tuesday was already a scheduled day to spend with my partner. I was certainly looking forward to it giveb the level of desire I'd been wishing for so long. Plus...it had been a week since the last time I saw her. A few hrs before I'd planned to meet her. I was debating calling spouse to see if she needed cold meds from the store. Before I got to call, she'd text me to say her partner was coming over tonight 😡😡

So why am I disappointed...frustrated....angry? Inspect over 5 days with this woman and she wanted nothing to do with me sexually. She's sick...and on her cycle...yet she wanted to spend it with her partner and not me!.it was the ultimately feeling of not being desired, feeling unwanted and most of all, being taken for granted. I bottled it so that I could talk to my therapist at the end of the week (Friday). 

The weekend was Valentine's day weekend and it didnt feel right to even bring it up Friday. So I made sure to tell her that we needed to talk sunday following all the V-day plans with other partners as well as ourselves. She had no idea whT I was planning to bring up. We hung out eith our other partners and even had a wonderful.V-dY dinner ourselves (and before u ask, no. There was no sex). By now, I've stopped asking and have taking the hint that she just doesnt seaire that from me. 

So sunday comes, I get up to make pancake mix (yes from scratch) as well as cook bacon and scramble 2 eggs for myself. Breakfast was good and now was as good a time as any to have this discussion. I started to explain just how hurt and rejected i felt by initiating for intimacy not once, not twice, but multiple times in Vegas as well as since we'd been home and how she'd rejected the advances. And how the one time she didnt reject it, as much as it appreciated it, it felt like a pity fuck. I then explained how I accepted the number of reasons why she didnt want sex after we got home (she's sick, my cycle, etc) yet none of those reasons prevented her from spending time and sharing intimacy with her partner. At this point she asked me how I'd known they had sex. "Well if having the sheets in the washer and comforter in the dryer isnt a tell tale of intimacy happening, I dont know what is!". I walk past the laundry room in order to get in the house. How dare u question my reality and try to make it seem as though I am misunderstanding! 

She owned up to it but asked another baffling question. She asked me "What is do u want? What is the end goal here?" The end goal is to own your shit and accept that you are taking me for granted! Own the fact that u move the goalposts to suit your needs! Own the fact that u agreed to us rescheduling intimacy if we reject sexual advances and now you're going back.on your agreement! That's all I want. Own your poor behavior!

Time will tell if the poor behavior continues....

mid-February Blues Pt 2

   Oh Las Vegas, Hells

   Kitchen was a fantastic 

   food experience 

So far, we've been in Vegas since late Thur evening. Full days on fri and sat...no sexy time. Desperate times call for desperate measures. Its super bowl day and the plan is really to chill the fuck out. I didnt ask for sexy time sunday morning. Mostly in an attempt to 1) give it a break and 2) to see if maybe she would initiate. Needless to say, that didnt happen. We ate breakfast and went to the resort pool to enjoy some hot tub time. It was a perfect day to enjoy the pool. We spent hours there...fot a nice gold tan 😂 and went upstairs to shower and figure out where to watch the game. At this point, I am dying inside! I really just wanted to have intimate time with my spouse. I practically begged (not proud of it). She was not interested in it for herself but I think she could see my need for it, so she relented. 

It was enjoyable in the sense that I needed to get off...but not enjoyable in that she was basically doing it for me and not herself. It was a mixed bag of enjoyment and frustration but I appreciated the act. 

The super started and we decided to sit at the bar at Emeril Lagasse's seafood kitchen. They had skillet cornbread that was simply amazing! I had a smokey old fashioned while watching the game. It went as expected. Patriots would keep it close but Seahawks would win in a not ao close game.

The evening following the game was time to eat a bite, pack, get some sleep, shower, get dressed and head to the airport for our return trip home. All went well until it was time to catch our Uber to get back to the airport. There was an accident that was blocking entry into our resort. Uber drivers kept canceling the booking and finally one driver called to explain what was going on. We agreed to meet off property but nearby. We walked and called the driver and they were nowhere near where they were supposed to be. We happened to cross the street and a taxi driver stopped to ask if we needed a ride. We damn sure needed a ride! And we managed to get to the airport reasonably on time.

Lastly we landed in Atl around 630a Monday morning. 

It was an amazing experience! The highlight being Hells Kitchen and the MJ one show. The low-light was Eddie Griffin. Would do it all over again...maybe with different expectations regarding intimacy. 

mid-February Blues Pt 1

  

   Valentine's Day is

   reminding you are cherished 

   loved and desired 💜💜

   Hoping u feel loved

   everyday beyond today

   until my last breath

Valentine's day was a great day. I celebrated with two partners. One partner had all day Friday through noon Saturday. My spouse was celebrated the remainder of the day theough Sunday. But I'm not hear to talk about the lovey dovey Eros stuff. Lets talk about the hard ish shall we?

Last weekend (2/6 - 2/8) was my spouse's birthday. We jetted off to Vegas to celebrate her weekend and her revolution around the sun. One of the things I'd hoped to do was remind her that she is loved adored and desired. And by saying that, I might add i wanted to initiate sex by sharing how desirous she is. 

We arrived in Vegas late Thursday night. And despite the travel and time change, I held true to my goals. I shared with her how beautiful she was and how much I desired to share intimacy with her. Given how late it was, I didnt blame her for wanting to get some sleep and to try again in the morning. We slept a few hours and we woke up.fri morning. I had one thing on my mind...show my spouse how much love and adoration I have for her. How much I wanted to show that love through intimacy. Well, she wanted to see Vegas...I relented, got dressed and off we went to see the Vegas strip and find breakfast. 

Friday night was the big evening to celebrate her bday. I made reservations at Hells Kitchen for an early dinner. It was frigging amazing! It is not overhyped and worth every penny! The beef wellington was art in a meal. My old fashioned was art to be consumed. From there, we went to Mandalay Bay to see the Michael Jackson one cirque de soleil show. It was extremely moving and amazing...and emotional. Beautiful show! And so glad I had the experience to watch. 

We got back to the hotel in which I was hoping for some sexy time. She took her clothes off and immediately went to sleep 😴 

Saturday morning was here and I rolled over with the plan to initiate not with words...but with action. I snuggled up behind her with kisses on her neck, shoulders and back. I guess due to all the walking, she was 'sore' and wanted to get up and move. We walked some more along the strip and checked out the inside of Ceasers palace hotel. Its amazing of the sure size of these hotels/casinos. We checked out the fountains at the Bellagio casino and afterwards headed to Emeril Lagasse's restaurant before closing out the evening watching Eddie Griffin. He is one of my favorite comedians and unfortunately, he is no longer one of my favorites. He had 3 or 4 too many Macallans and then started to talk about queen, and trans folks. We stayed until the end but the last hour of his show wasnt enjoyable. 

It was a late night but I wanted to hold true to my goal of initiating intimacy while there. Granted my intentions were from a good place, no sexy time was had sat night either 😔